This is a topic very close to my heart – SEXISM.
Being Asian, I have experienced myself and seen many situations where girls are exploited and oppressed. To say this bothers me would be the biggest understatement ever. I have even heard ridiculous stories of how people get tablets from India/Pakistan to ensure they give birth to a baby boy. Although this is scientifically not even possible, the whole idea is preposterous! How some mothers are against the idea of giving birth to daughters is outrageous, how can they even think like this? They are females themselves who have come from females!
Even though females have come so far, I honestly still believe the Asian community today is still holding us back! I’ve heard heartbreaking lines over just this year such as: “She gave birth to a daughter so I didn’t feel the need to tell you,” and “Why did the daughter set the fire on the funeral why not another male relative?” It’s disgusting to hear such shameful things. I do not understand why in today’s day and age Asian females are looked down upon. The whole idea of sending the burden known as your daughter into another family then she is no longer yours?
To think it’s only males who think like this is not true, its females too. It makes my blood boil when females themselves do this because of the brainwashed mentality they have. A female friend once said to me “it’s okay for guys to get married whenever they want but girls have to marry before the age of 25 or otherwise it looks bad” WHY OH WHY?! WHY DO MY REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS DETERMINE MY LIFE?! I have a vagina so I have to get married by a certain age? Anything I do which is socially unacceptable will be considered a stigma but boys will be boys? WHAT THE FLIP?!
Its 2013 and someone said to me, “Why do girls need to go to university?” Excuse me?! I’m not saying girls should become guys. My point is let us do and be whatever we want. If a girl wants to take careers which are majority male dominated, she can. If a girl wants to dress like a guy, she will and she can. I understand how girls are considered vulnerable and all but don’t tell me I can’t study or that I’m not equal to a man’s status because you my dear, deserve a slap.
If I want to drink – I will. Okay we consider religious and health factors but do not tell not to because I’m a girl! If I want to go clubbing I will. If I want to engage in any activity which is considered to be male dominated I will do so! I’ve also come across males treating their partners disgustingly such as restricting them just because they’re supposedly the weaker sex? I never want the fact that I am female to become a fear for me and I will ensure this, I promise you that.
I know not everyone is like this at all but many are which frustrates me. Fortunately, my parents are against this sexism which is why I am so aware of the matter but I am also aware of many Asian girls who go through such crap. I’m not a feminist nor am I man hater – I’m just a girl whose opinions needed to be heard. Sorry, if I have used any language which has offended you but this matter makes me angry and it all needed to be said. I tried my best to not swear. Feel free to share your views below. – Mimi xo